The expert told us what men think about this.

Despite independence and independence of women whether questions from a series still interest many “Can the girl start meeting guy by herself” and “How guys react if girl shows initiative“.

As it appeared, guys have no anything against an initiative of girls, and here opinions of respondents were shared. For example, one of them considers that acquaintance of the girl to the guy unnaturally and reminds ritual dances more, another, though tried to get acquainted the first, all the same calls this idea failure, and the third does not see in it anything bad. It applies to all relationships including gay and lesbians. The thing is that one is dominant and other is passive. So if the non-dominant side initiates the interest and want to set a date, how would the dominant react?

On a subject whether the first can get acquainted, the invited expert Andy Graves gave the comments.

Who initiates first date?

Andy connects the man’s initiative with biological requirement to win the woman. Therefore, if the girl approaches first, it is possible that she can guard the guy. Though, considering the fact that men can hesitate or be diffident too, sometimes the first step should be taken by weaker sex. Important, what step it will be. If you ask this question in Cameraboys chat you will get the confirmation that guys would like if the girl would take the initiative.

How to meet men

It is possible to get acquainted actively and passively. If the girl herself approached to get acquainted, then, clear, she chose active tactics. Similar courage frightens off someone, but so you will understand at once whether you are pleasant each other. And even if it will not turn out, you will lose nothing. You remember, the overestimated importance of the partner – one of the main mistakes at date.

Passive interest to dating to the man is based differently. At him the girl gives hints, but does not take the initiative. To draw attention of the guy, Andy gives good advice.

• Flirt. You actively prove to be, and men react to it – on your open gestures, a game with hair. Andy is sure that those girls who are sure of themselves are able to flirt. And the more the girl is sure of herself, the easier she of communication. However, here the expert makes a warning: not all men understand hints at once therefore sometimes to flirt to have several times.
• Let to the man to feel the hero. Ask him about the help or ask council. So you will have an occasion to strike up a conversation moreover to slightly amuse his vanity, men like to feel the force and authority.

    Separate after could attract and remember his attention. “Then at the man the biological program to catch up with the girl works. If the girl does not separate, so she from him needs something, and here the man can already prick up the ears” – Andy considers.

Talk with the girl in cafe absolutely about everything about what there is a wish, and that it is really interesting to you. Some pickupers advise to tell various emotional stories which will help to bring the girl to the necessary wave and not to arrange it tiresome interrogations at all about the one as whom it works as whom to study how many at it brothers and sisters, etc.

Certainly, to carry on a conversation emotionally, it makes sense to tell fascinating stories as so you bring the girl in a positive state, thereby summoning interest. But I do not agree that you should not ask the girl on anything. To that there are several reasons:

• The conversation is conducted by two and when tells only one, at the second to it interest can be gone after a while;
• To the girl, as well as any person, there is a wish to be uttered, tell about the merits and give to share the difficulties to her such chance, listen to her attentively and she will trust you, the main thing – do not turn into eternally sympathizing girlfriend, for this purpose accurately designate the intentions by means of touches;
• When the girl tells about herself, you know her better and understand, to properly build with her further communication to drag it to itself in a bed or to create with it the relations;
• If you look for the serious relations, and the girl obviously does not fit into your picture of the ideal spouse, you quickly will understand it during dialogue and will be able quicker to say goodbye to it not to waste the precious time.

Personally, to me happens really interestingly to learn, then my new acquaintance is engaged whether she shares my interests and as spends free time. It is clear, that if I look for the girl for one night, selection criteria will be much lower, than if I wanted to create with it the serious relations. But they will be all the same. Happens so that the young lady is beautiful externally, but it is scary silly. Such girls are not pleasant to me, and I usually finish with them communication, without bringing the matter to a bed even at their desire, of course, if at present I have a constant mistress.

On an appointment in cafe I advise you to relax and speak about what it is interesting to you. Practically all popular subjects will approach: cinema, music, travel, sex, etc. I especially recommend sex and relationship of floors. But here it is important not to go too far not to seem anxious. It is more reasonable to ask the girl that she thinks of these or those things.

Good phrases to start a conversation:

• As you consider, who lies more: men or women?
• Your opinion who changes a thicket is interesting to me: men or women?
• Why girls fight because of guys?
• Why girls are afraid to get acquainted the first?
• Why women want sex more men, but try to hide it?

As you see, each of these subjects is interesting, it can be developed easily and it has sexual implication, but at the same time in itself bears nothing trite. Talking to the girl on similar subjects, you cause in her such emotions as interest, embarrassment, cheerfulness, and allow it to be liberated that is extremely important on an appointment.

Boring subjects, such as computers, cars, IT, the higher mathematics, physics, philosophy and lofty matters which are so interesting to much of us on an appointment it is better to bypass the tenth road. The only exception if the girl herself understands similar subject. And that, I do not advise. For example, if she works in IT sphere, then perhaps and understands the latest computer developments, but also it is quite probable that for the whole day at work she already so about it has a good long talk that computers to it are a pain in the neck and now she just would like to relax and chat about something simple. Present, the girl wants to spend cheerfully time with you and to oversleep, and you begin to tell her about testing of new applications for a latest model of the iPhone. Whether well it is silly?

    Remember! If you are allocated with natural virtuosity, you can tell fascinatingly the girl several interesting facts about space or deep-water fishes. It will be good if it is necessary in a subject as will emphasize your versatile development. But it is not necessary to turn all appointment into discussion of a similar subject if the girl is not interested in it. Besides, not the fact that it will not become boring for you to communicate with such girl.